He has intelligently carved the niche ‘Professional love counsellor’ for himself. All the ladies I know in Ghana have a smattering of what this counsellor has once said or his popular mantras; social media don’t miss any of his interviews because it heavily attract traffic and youth going through relationship problems yearn to eavesdrop on his interviews. This confirms the impact of one of the finest and most listened to social and traditional media commentator in Ghana, Rev. Counsellor Cyril George Carstensen Lutterodt.
Personally, I haven’t paid attention to any of his relationship comments and I guess if not for a story online that provoked this publication, I wouldn’t have watched or read most of his amazing knowledge shared on relationships. There are a plethora of issues I agree with Counsellor Cyril George Carstensen Lutterodt (pardon me if I write his full name because I’m a fan of this nice name) but on the other hand, I find most of his comments consistently inconsistent. Counsellor, I honestly want to be your friend and tap from your wealth of wisdom in love and relationship but I strongly disagree with some of the issues you have raised recently via interviews.
I was fascinated to see these stories online ‘Don’t date one person for more than 14-days – Counsellor Lutterodt’ and ‘Dating more men is a capacity building – Counselor Lutterodt’. “Meengye nndi d3 )b3ka d3m” (I don’t believe he will say that), I told myself in Tadi Fante. Because of the scads of satire websites in Ghana, I hardly take such stories seriously. I only verify the source to convince myself the authenticity of the story. I was forced to click the link and hey! this is a credible and enviable source. “Ah what go make he say that?” I asked again without any answer to my curiosity. According to the publication, the counsellor who was on RunDown with Joojo on TV Africa revealed that, “as a single man or young lady, it is not good to stick to one person in the name of dating for a long time. He reveals that during your singlehood, it is advisable to cast your net wide in looking for and selecting a life partner. The wider you cast your net and browse through more options the greater your chances of finding a suitable partner. This advice he maintains you would be given should you attend a premarital counselling” the publication paraphrased the Counsellor’s ‘extraordinary’ advice.
In this social media age where most youth form thoughts from what is mostly posted online, such advises like dating more men is capacity building and not dating more than 14 days will end a lot of youth in a bottomless pit should this counsellor be allowed to continuously give these bizarre advices.
He also proudly campaign that, ladies should not allow poor men to marry them. What is his definition of ‘poor’ anyway? If your definition of a poor man is someone who doesn’t have anything NOW, let me share with you what the First Lady of United States of America (USA) said during a Democratic National Convention (DNC) in USA in 2012.
In her speech, Mrs. Obama said “You see, even back then, when Barack was a senator and a presidential candidate, to me, he was still the guy who picked me up for our dates in a car that was so rusted out, I could actually see the pavement going by in a hole in the passenger side door. He was the guy whose proudest possession was a coffee table he’d found in a dumpster (borla/rubbish dump as it is known in Ghana), and whose only pair of decent shoes was a half size too small”. To Counsellor Lutterodt, this is a poor man and any lady who ‘unfortunately’ finds her ears listening to this skinny man whose ears attract the attention of the listener more than anything he says should report him to the police for immediate arrest! Such a ….. (no word really comes to mind to complete this sentence).
Pastor Mensa Otabil also shares his story of the days when he was dating his wife. According to him, he and his wife were from two unparalleled backgrounds and at a point he could sense that his wife’s dad was not in agreement of their union but who envisaged this man from such background to later own a prestigious University and win ‘Most Influential Ghanaian’ twice in Ghana.
In this age where the percentage of educated females are battling that of the males, the counsellor should rather provoke the capacity building of ladies in the right way. He should advise them to look out for ambitious and men with potentials rather than putting ladies at a vulnerable position of waiting for the rich. Most rich men value the women they struggled with in their ‘hustling days’ and mostly see the ones who come after when they make the money as ‘sycophants.’ A story is told of a rich man who married 7 wives but was always seen with his last wife who is also the youngest and curvaceous. To most of his neighbours, his last wife is his favourite wife until one day during an interview he mentioned that, his first wife is his favourite because she was there when he was nobody. Have you also realised that, of all the wives of Braimah Kamoko, aka Bukom Banku, the popular Ghanaian Boxer, it is his first wife whose name is tattooed on his arm? Have you asked yourself why Counsellor Lutterodt?
Sometimes I think the interviewers don’t allow the Counsellor to fully explain himself on what he says because they are fascinated themselves about what he says or the Counsellor doesn’t explain himself well.
Unless your remarks are for advertisement to promote your brand Counsellor, most of the things you say are consistently inconsistent!
Still waiting for the day I meet you for lunch Counsellor. Good day!
Author: Nana Kwesi Coomson (www.233times.com) @nkcoomson on Twitter